Relationship Marriage

Is Your Marriage SUPPOSED To Make You Happy?

Is Your Marriage SUPPOSED To Make You Happy?

Your Happiness OR The Happiness of Your Marriage? 

I’ve said it before, “The success of your relationships is directly related to your own personal success.” 

However, if you are counting on your marriage (or your spouse) to bring your endless joy - you may be barking up the wrong tree. 

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A Guide to Living a Happy, Fulfilled & Meaningful Life

Four years ago, I was living in a persistent state of unhappiness. My plate was full – too full.

I was working full-time in a high-level position with a 3 hour daily commute, taking classes to complete my master’s degree, and counseling & coaching 15-20 hours per week. Did I mention I had 2 children under 2 at home and a very underappreciated husband?  Here's what I did to ditch the overwhelm and live a better life...

 

Why Setting Goals WITH Your Partner is Crucial

So, have you set your New Year resolutions? Are you spinning around excited about all the ideas you have to create your best life ever?

Is your spouse on board with these new goals and aspirations?

As we gear up to reach new goals and aspirations in our lives it is so important to bring our spouses along with us. Better yet – create a goal together.

In this new blog, I’m going to give you 5 questions to help you create a shared meaning and shared goals with your spouse! Read more...

6 Greatest Hurdles to Improving Your Marriage

Have you felt stuck, unfulfilled or unhappy in your marriage? Do you feel like you’ve tried everything and it’s just hopeless.

You still love your spouse, you want to stay together for the kids’ sake…but you’re not sure how much longer you can go on in a relationship that doesn’t meet your needs.

You’re not alone. Studies show that most couples struggle in their relationships for 6 years before seeking help.

Wow! 6 years of spinning your wheels, reading self-help books and hoping something will magically change.

In this week's blog, I'm going to break down the 6 Greatest Hurdles to Improving Your Marriage and give you the tools for jumping right over these hurdles!

Ready to become a high-jumper? Read more...

4 Secrets to Get Your Husband To Open Up

“My husband doesn’t like to talk. He is very closed off and I don’t really know how to get him to open up.”

I hear this so often from both men and women.  There is usually one partner who is more verbal and likes to talk a lot and one partner who is more intrinsic and tends to deal with things internally.  Learn how to deal with it here...

Getting Past Betrayal

Have you ever felt lonely, distant and angry in your marriage.  You’ve thought about separation because you were so unhappy – but then you rationalize that things aren’t really that bad.

 

There’s no abuse, your spouse is a good person overall, he/she is a good parent…so why are you feeling so stuck and hopeless?

Maybe you actually push your spouse further away hoping they will give you do something bad enough that you’ll have an excuse to leave.  Or conversely, you are trying to push towards your spouse – just to have them push you away and the distance grows…you become more lonely and hurt…you feel unsafe…

5 Ways To Rebuild Trust In Your Relationship

5 Ways To Rebuild Trust In Your Relationship

“Love is weakest when there is more doubt than trust.  Love is strongest when we learn to trust in spite of doubt”  - Unknown

Often when the topic of trust comes up our brains go straight to infidelity.  However, trust in most marriages is broken way before an affair – it is broken through out daily interactions.

Trust is broken when we don’t meet our partner’s emotional needs.  It is broken when we come home late from work after promising to be on time.  It is broken when we choose our parent’s or friend’s interests over the interest of the relationship.    

Are You Married To A Narcissist?

Are You Married To A Narcissist?

Narcissism in general terms is being self-centered, selfish or needing to feel special - and we all can do some of these things - some of the time.  Often, we can display signs of narcissism when we need to booster our confidence, hide our vulnerabilities or protect ourselves from being sad, lonely or scared.

The Secret to Emotional Intimacy

The Secret to Emotional Intimacy

Don't be a tourist in your spouse's city - start recreating emotional intimacy in your relationship with this simple conversation.

[VIDEO & GUIDE] A Mindset Shift That Can Save Your Marriage

[VIDEO & GUIDE] A Mindset Shift That Can Save Your Marriage

In this VLOG - I walk you through a simple shift that can literally transform your relationships and life TODAY!

Selfish vs. Selfless In Your Relationship

Selfish vs. Selfless In Your Relationship

The key here is…

You have to find the balance in your relationship between selfless and selfish.

If you are constantly selfless and letting everyone else have the armrest – you will find yourself resentful and frustrated with lots of aches!

If you are consistently selfish you will push your partner away, make them feel uncomfortable, and probably live with some hidden guilt and anxiety. 

If you can find the balance between getting your needs met and meeting the needs of your spouse – then you can create the perfect airplane seating situation…

This Powerful Secret of Amazing Couples....

This Powerful Secret of Amazing Couples....

Learn the #1 reason for divorces and unhappy marriages - and what you can do about it!

A Simpler Life by the End of the Week!

A Simpler Life by the End of the Week!

Do you want it all?  Are you tired of hearing about life-balance?  Well - I have a solution for you, just keep reading....

Re-IGNITING THE PASSION! [FREE GIFT]

Re-IGNITING THE PASSION! [FREE GIFT]

Need some quick tips for igniting the passion in your relationship tonight?  Read this and click the link for a FREE GIFT!

I Have A Dream....For Your Marriage...

I Have A Dream....For Your Marriage...

Reflecting on the day, I got curious and started looking up some of Martin Luther King, Jr's famous quotes…other than, "I have a dream…"  So many of his quotes really speak to how we should live every day.  He truly is an inspirational man. 

One of my favorite quotes I found from MLK, Jr. is, "Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend." 

So true in life and especially in marriage....

A Simple Text That Can Save Your Marriage

A Simple Text That Can Save Your Marriage

About two weeks ago, I had the pleasure of being interviewed by the world-class Jenny Stennerman, who helps women across the world find balance and create a life that rocks!  

I just found out that the podcast was released yesterday and I'm so excited to let you in on the fun. 

We had a great time, and offer some terrific actionable steps to transform your marriage and relationships today (include some parenting stuff!). 

Stop Complaining...

Stop Complaining...

Making this one change in the way you communicate - can start bringing you wealth in your relationship, life and home. 

Making 2016 the Best Year In Your Marriage!

Making 2016 the Best Year In Your Marriage!

As the days are passing quickly, I'm realizing that New Years is right around the corner.  I have already started making my list for my new years resolutions.  I am determined to make 2016 the best year yet! 

How about you?

I recommend that you and your spouse work together on creating some family and marital goals for 2016.  Maybe this will be reconnecting with a weekend away, scheduling monthly or weekly date nights, developing your communication skills, attending couples coaching, getting on the same page with parenting, strengthening your finances, or having more sex!

Fight Less & Connect More Part IV: Feeling Heard & Understood In Your Marriage

How many times do you walk away from an argument with your spouse and think, "He had no clue what I was saying" or "She didn't really listen to me".

If you are like 90 percent of other couples - probably a lot!

It can be really difficult to truly communicate with your spouse (or anyone for that matter).  Often, we think that we are being very clear - but in reality, our message is jumbled.

The trick to truly feeling heard and understood in your marriage is two-fold: 

Fight Less & Connect More Part III: Top 12 Communication Mistakes That Will Hurt Your Marriage & What To Do Instead

Although I could feel the hair on the back of my neck start to rise when my husband asked about plans for Thanksgiving -  I was pleasantly surprised when we managed to keep it together.  

We were able to use all of the communication skills we have been practicing for years to finally overcome one of our biggest holiday challenges!  It was actually pretty amazing!!