Is Your Marriage SUPPOSED To Make You Happy?

The age old question…what comes first? 

Your Happiness OR The Happiness of Your Marriage? 

I’ve said it before, “The success of your relationships is directly related to your own personal success.” 

However, if you are counting on your marriage (or your spouse) to bring your endless joy - you may be barking up the wrong tree. 

You’re marriage IS NOT supposed to MAKE you happy. Neither is your spouse.

It’s just a piece of paper that says you are legally attached to someone who drives you nuts at every possible opportunity.

A person that is going to take the wind out of your sails sometimes and other times will push every single button you have until you either explode or crawl under a rock. 

It’s true. BUT…

Marriage is also a set of vows - a promise to LOVE another human being unconditionally. 

It wasn’t a vow to only love your spouse when he is cool, fun and proves that he loves you more.

Here’s the deal…

You are the only ONE who can make YOU happy.

Your marriage and your partner are supposed to challenge you to LOVE HARD...because this is the ONLY way you will truly experience true self love.

So, how do you LOVE HARD?

  • Don’t be afraid to love your partner more than they love you. 
  • Don’t be afraid to give to your partner, even if they don’t give back.
  • Be selfless and spoil your partner because it makes you happy, not because you want something in return. 
  • Let go of judgments and expectations. Love your partner for who they are…faults and all.   

Giving is the highest expression of potency. In the very act of giving, I experience my strength, my wealth, my power. This experience of heightened vitality and potency fills me with joy. I experience myself as overflowing, spending, alive, hence as joyous. Giving is more joyous than receiving, not because it is a deprivation, but because in the act of giving lies the expression of my aliveness.” - Erich Fromme, The Act of Loving

Make this one mindset change today: I give love because it fills my soul...NOT...because I want something in return.

The ability to do these things lies deep within you…if you can figure out how to pull it up to the surface and truly LOVE HARD - you will find internal happiness (and your relationships will thrive.)

After all, a solid relationship is built on YOU doing what is in the best interest of you AND your partner. 

I CHALLENGE YOU TODAY. 

I want you to figure out how you can LOVE HARD today. How you can love your partner more than they love you? How you can give without expecting anything back? How you can find your joy and happiness from within?

Remember: Love is an act - NOT a feeling. 

Do this today, tomorrow and for the next month - and let me know how your relationship changes. 

XOXO, 

Valerie

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