Is Your Marriage SUPPOSED To Make You Happy?

Your Happiness OR The Happiness of Your Marriage? 

I’ve said it before, “The success of your relationships is directly related to your own personal success.” 

However, if you are counting on your marriage (or your spouse) to bring your endless joy - you may be barking up the wrong tree. 

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A Guide to Living a Happy, Fulfilled & Meaningful Life

Four years ago, I was living in a persistent state of unhappiness. My plate was full – too full.

I was working full-time in a high-level position with a 3 hour daily commute, taking classes to complete my master’s degree, and counseling & coaching 15-20 hours per week. Did I mention I had 2 children under 2 at home and a very underappreciated husband?  Here's what I did to ditch the overwhelm and live a better life...


The Best of 2016 in Marriage, Life & Parenting

So this week, I want to take a trip down memory lane with you. I want to share my 10 most well-received articles from 2016. I hope one of them will give you the strength, courage and hope that you need today to continue in your journey and make 2017 the best year yet!  Read more...

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Why Setting Goals WITH Your Partner is Crucial

So, have you set your New Year resolutions? Are you spinning around excited about all the ideas you have to create your best life ever?

Is your spouse on board with these new goals and aspirations?

As we gear up to reach new goals and aspirations in our lives it is so important to bring our spouses along with us. Better yet – create a goal together.

In this new blog, I’m going to give you 5 questions to help you create a shared meaning and shared goals with your spouse! Read more...

3 Secret No-Fail Strategies to Achieve All Your New Years Goals

It’s that time of year again, when you start to dream and even plan to make 2017 your best year ever. You have a New Year resolution for self-growth, further your education, lose weight, manage your finances better or improve your relationships. You feel excited, motivated and know that it’s not going to be like last year (or the year before, or the year before) – BUT this year, THIS YEAR you are going to achieve all your New Year goals!

You are going to be part of the 8 percent of American that achieve their New Year goals. It’s going to be different this year, and I’ll tell you why. Read more...

6 Greatest Hurdles to Improving Your Marriage

Have you felt stuck, unfulfilled or unhappy in your marriage? Do you feel like you’ve tried everything and it’s just hopeless.

You still love your spouse, you want to stay together for the kids’ sake…but you’re not sure how much longer you can go on in a relationship that doesn’t meet your needs.

You’re not alone. Studies show that most couples struggle in their relationships for 6 years before seeking help.

Wow! 6 years of spinning your wheels, reading self-help books and hoping something will magically change.

In this week's blog, I'm going to break down the 6 Greatest Hurdles to Improving Your Marriage and give you the tools for jumping right over these hurdles!

Ready to become a high-jumper?

The Fear That is Killing Your Relationships

It's tough to be 100 percent authentic around everyONE - everyTIME.  However, I want you to consider why you are choosing to not be 100 percent yourself? Read more...

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The Perfect (FREE) Gift For Your Husband or Wife

Before I fill you in on the Perfect [FREE] Holiday Gift for your spouse – I want to talk to you about two little things that make a BIG difference in your relationships & life. Read more...

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Life Coaching vs. Counseling: What's the Difference?

You know you are ready for change and also know you need someone to keep you accountable, help you understand yourself and walk with you through your journey...but should that person be a life coach or a therapist?  What's the difference between the two?

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The Fear (& Power) of Vulnerability

I was scared shitless!  As soon as I arrived at the ‘feelings’ conference and realized what I had gotten myself into, my body tensed up and I felt like I had a small tire wrapping my shoulders, constricting my chest and crushing my insides. Read more... 

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How to Fix Your Marriage

I wanted to fix his problem.

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Bringing Sexy Back to the Married Couples Bedroom

One of the girls and I went out to grab some snacks and refill the wine fridge and she started talking to me about her marriage (as you can imagine - this happens often with me).  I knew her and her husband had gone through some rough patches - but she ensured me they were doing better now then ever. 

Fortunately - her and her husband ARE smart.  They got help when they needed it and fought hard to keep their relationship strong.  

The only complaint or worry she had was about their sex life. Read more...

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Three Keys To A Happy Marriage (Part II: Attune)

True love is not a magical mystical thing that only some can have.  True love is for everyone.

Anyone can find true love – but more importantly everyone can master true love.

Love is an act.  You give love, receive love, accept love. You can also use this one skill to SHOW LOVE. Read more...

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Three Keys To A Happy Marriages (Part I: Empathy)

This ONE skill will get you all of this...

  • You will become a better friend, spouse, parent, leader and follower.
  • You better understand the needs of those around you.
  • You can deal with others negativity and not take it as your own.
  • You will learn to motivate others around you.
  • The way you view the world will be more open, profound and interesting.
  • You will deepen the connection with your spouse and others who are important to you.

I'm giving you some simple steps to develop this skill. Read more...

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When Your Married to an Individuals with a Mental Illness

Life & your marriage can seem like a prison when someone you love has a mental illness or substance abuse disorder. There is hope. Read more...

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Why You MUST OWN Your Happiness

No-one else can MAKE you truly happy.  Happiness comes from within and if you are counting on your spouse to make you happy or to fulfill your needs you will be in for a big surprise – because he’s not perfect and will let you down at some time.  Probably not on purpose – but it will happen. Read more...

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The Mistake 90% of Wives Make (And How To Avoid It!)

Relationships are the #1 predictor of your life’s happiness.  For real – that’s what a lot of the latest and greatest research is saying…and it makes sense. Keep reading this week's blog to understand what you may be doing to sabotage your own happiness.  Read more...

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Take This 4 Question Quiz To Become A Better Wife (or Husband)

Don't wait until your marriage is on the rocks...start changing it and improving it today. In this blog, I'm giving you a little test and action steps to improve your marriage each and every day!  Read more...

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What To Do When You Feel Alone In Your Marriage

I HAD to do everything…and I just wished my husband would have done something.  There's a reason this happens in your marriage and it's not what you think. Read more...

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How To Breakthrough Jealousy In Your Marriage

Are there ever times when you compare your relationship to others - or are jealous of what other's have in their marriage?

I understand the feeling. So, what do you do about it? Read more...

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