Episode 48: How To Fall Madly In Love With Every Part of You!

Manage Emotions, Stop Self-Sabotage, and Find Your Authentic Self

Have you ever heard yourself say, “one part of me really want this, the other part of me really wants that….” Why am I so indecisive? 

Or, what is wrong with me, I can’t let go of this anger, anxiety, hurt. I’m so broken.

Why do I keep doing this to myself - I keep sabotaging myself….what is wrong with me.

You are not broken, and there is nothing “wrong” with you...and trying to get rid of the parts or fix the parts of you that you don’t like may be exactly what’s keeping you from growth, transformation, happiness and from living your best, most authentic life. 

It’s keeping you frustrated, confused and it’s also keeping you in unhealthy, self-sabotaging patterns that are stopping you from reaching your goals. 

Most struggling women and men make the big mistake of trying to ignore, fix, or get rid of the parts of themselves that they dislike - and this is probably a mistake that you’re making right now.  Learn more in the podcast.

I consistently have women and men come to me and say, Val, please let me get rid of this anxiety, anger, people-pleasing, criticism, guilt and shame! There is something wrong with me - I’m so broken and I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. 

They waste energy, ruin relationships, keep themselves in a box because they are trying so hard to hide parts of them that they don’t find appealing. 

In sneaks the guilt, shame, and overwhelming stressed out spiral!

If this is you - it’s not your fault.

In this podcast, I’m going to teach you how to truly love and embrace every single part of you. You’re going to learn how to leverage every part of you in order to get these massive results in your life...

  • Access your true, authentic self

  • Gain More Confidence with One Simple Trick

  • Make friends with all of your emotions

  • Stop the self-sabotage

  • Reach your goals and dreams

  • Create Better relationships

  • Trust within yourself

This is a podcast you don’t want to miss!!

See you inside!

Episode 47: (Part 2 of 2) 5 Days to Improve the Communication & Connection in Your Marriage

Last week you took part in Steps 1 through 3 of the 5 Steps to Improve the Communication and connection in your marriage. 

Now, at your request, Steps 4 & 5 are ready for you!!

You're about to get all of these benefits in this special two-part podcast: How To Improve the Communication & Connection in Your Marriage in 5 Steps!

In Part 2, you are going to discover...

  • Understand internal and external boundaries and how healthy boundaries can save your marriage.

  • Learn how let go of fears, big emotions, and defensiveness that is keeping you stuck.

  • Get the 4 reasons most women stay stuck, hopeless, and lost in relationship and how to move past these mistakes.

  • Discover the True Love & Connection framework that will help you repair and revive any marital or relationship challenge.

Make sure to listen to this ASAP, because it's a limited release podcast and it's going down on August 27th!

Episode 46: (Part 1 of 2) 5 Days To Improve the Communication & Connection In Your Marriage

How To Improve Your Communication So That You Can Feel Heard, Understood & Connected To Your Spouse

(without arguments, hurt feelings and defensiveness)

DURING THIS TWO PART PODCAST YOU'll DISCOVER...

  • My exact steps to improve the communication and connection in your marriage quickly (even if your husband does nothing).

  • How to get your husband to open up more, so that you can connect deeper and lern more about each other, yourself and your relationship.

  • The exact words and attitude you must have to feel heard, understood, and supported after every conversation (without arguing, defensiveness & hurt feelings)

  • Break the dangerous communication cycles that keep you stuck in misunderstanding, high emotions and disconnection.

Episode 45: How to Find Clarity

Have you ever had a big decision to make and you didn’t know if you should trust your heart, your head or your gut?

Maybe you’re looking for purpose. Or wondering why you don’t feel fulfilled? 

Maybe you’re wondering if you need to cut loose a toxic relationship or finally quit an energy sucking job. 

Maybe you just didn’t even know where to start and you felt stuck and frustrated. Spending precious energy and time searching for an answer….asking around, reading books and blogs, searching for just one ounce of clarity? 

We’ve all been there...unfortunately, most people are making HUGE MISTAKES when trying to make a decision or looking for clarity. 

This mistake leads to wasted months, days, even years and causes anxiety each and every passing hour. 

That’s why in this episode of the Heal To Transform podcast I’m breaking down the exact steps to find clarity and giving you a simple process to help you make any decision. 

In this podcast, you’ll discover…

  • The BIGGEST MISTAKE most people make that’s keeps them stuck and prevents them from clarity and action. 

  • How you can find REAL clarity.

  • How to become more DECISIVE, CONFIDENT & INTUITIVE using a powerful process I break down in the podcast. 

  • Why your BRAIN KEEPS YOU FRUSTRATED, overwhelmed and stuck in inaction and what to do to change this!

This is a short, but powerful episode that you don’t want to miss!!

10 Powerful Questions for Clarity & Decision Making

Question 1: What do I need help in deciding? Where am I getting stuck? 

Question 2: What are my possible options? What else? What else? What else? What else?

Question 3: Should I [CHOICE A] or [CHOICE B]?   (if there are more than two options, just do two options a day, and then choose a winner and do questions 3-10 again with the next two options again with the winner and the next option - rinse and repeat. I.e., Should I [CHOICE WINNER] or [CHOICE C], Should I [CHOICE WINNER] or [CHOICE D])

Question 4: How do I want to feel or what do I want to experience as an outomces or result of this choice? What else? What else? What else? What else? 

Question 5: Will choice A make me feel this way or have these experiences? Why/How? Why/How? Why/How? Why/How? 

Question 6: Will choice B make me feel this way or have these experiences? Why/How? Why/How? Why/How? Why/How? 

Question 7: What are the possible consequences of Choice A? What else? What else? What else? What else? 

Question 8: What are the possible consequences of Choice A? What else? What else? What else? What else? 

Question 9: I now have all of the information and clarity I need, and I trust myself to make a good enough decision right now. What is my decision? 

Question 10: What action will I take next? 

You may have to repeat over a number of days. Don’t talk to others or ask for others for advice during this time. Trust yourself. 

Episode 44: The Science Backed Secrets to Being Patient With Our Kids and Ourselves with Wendy Bertagnole

This week is a special podcast just for my mommas out there - especially the ones with young kiddos - this podcast is for you!

As a mom to a 6 and 8 year old I know (boy do I know!) how challenging it can be to stay patient and calm when my kiddos are pushing every possible button I have. 

Not to mention that guilty monkey brain that sneaks up every night where I promise myself, “Tomorrow, I’ll yell less. Tomorrow, I’ll be more patient. Tomorrow, I’ll do better.”

Have you been there?

If so, then this podcast is just for you!


I’m joined with a special guest In this week’s episode of the Heal To Transform podcast...Wendy Bertagnole, parenting expert and author of Taming Tantrums: Simple and Positive Ways to Address Challenging Behavior and host of the Exceptional Parenting Podcast

In this episode, you’ll discover: 

  • Why time-outs, punishing, and ignoring your child when “they just want attention” may work for the time being, but they also can lead to shame and guilt in your child all the way into adulthood. 

  • Wendy breaks down the three reasons your children may be acting out, and how you can help them through these big emotions without distress and punishment. 

  • What’s really going on in your child’s brain and how punishment can causes subconscious limiting beliefs and “not good enough” beliefs in your child and in you. 

  • A powerful exercise to help you find more patience, CALM, and stronger connection in your every day parenting.

RESOURCES

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Question: What was your biggest take-away from this weeks episode?

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Episode 43: Meet All Your Goals & Break Bad Habits with This 5-Step Motivational Brain Priming

In this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast, I’m gonna share with you a simple 5 step process you can use to reprogram your brain to reach any goal, from saving more money to eating healthier to letting go of drama to stopping procrastination...

You’ll learn how to become a person who meets their goals and creates new habits easily, why your brain is holding you back AND how to create your own Motivational Brain Priming specific to your goals and habits so you get the results you want now!

This is such a powerful tool! Check out the episode here, and also grab your FREE workbook that walks you through the 5 life-changing steps!

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Episode 42: The 6 Myths That Are Sabotaging Relationships Everywhere

Could your expectations and beliefs be sabotaging your relationship? 

What’s generally accepted in society - isn’t always what’s best for your relationship. In fact, these 6 common beliefs could be sabotaging your relationship! 

Join me in the Heal To Transform podcast today, as I break down 6 HUGE MYTHS that could be hurting your relationship. 

Here’s a sneak peak of MYTH #1: Love is all you need for a great relationship!

Sorry - the Beatles were WRONG!

This is just one of the lies that society tells us...ever since we were little girls. Love IS NOT ALL you need - it’s just a piece of the healthy relationship puzzle.

The sad part is that this lie teaches us that we don’t have to work on our relationships - that they should just be easy. 

The truth is...our relationship is just like the aromatic and green basil plant sitting above the sink in my kitchen. 

When it gets sunlight, and I water it just the right amount every single day - it grows and flourishes, and provides me with a minty, fresh, sweet and savory flavor whenever I need it. 

But...if I didn’t give that plant attention, water, and sunlight - it would wilt, the leaves would turn brown and start to fall off, and eventually it would die away. 

You get this right!?

We are told that all relationships take are love - so at some point, once we get comfortable in our marriages and relationships - we stop feeding the love, we stop watering the relationship, we stop nourishing our partner….

...and then what happens…

...The relationship wilts away…

...we stop feeling “in-love”...

...we constantly fighting, hoping to finally get attention from our partner…

...we just completely withdraw, believing it is easier then the feeling of rejection or hurt…

This is just one of the 6 MYTHS, one of the 5 B.S. “rules” that society has preached and that is making our relationships wilt away. 

Go check out the other 6 myths in the Heal To Transform podcast, and then make sure to SHOW UP LIVE for the 5 Secrets to Repair and Revive Your Marriage Workshop tomorrow!!

This podcast will tell you about the sabotaging beliefs and lies about relationships - then the workshop is going to break down the 5 secrets to creating an Epic relationship. 

It’s the perfect pairing!

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Episode 41: Is People-Pleasing Making You Sick & Stressed?

How To Start Living YOUR Authentic Life By Saying “NO”!

Would you like to live your life more authentically and let go of extra added stress? 

Did you know that by saying “yes” to others and not having boundaries adds stress to your life - AND can cause physical illness?? 

Our conversation today is all about how to stop living your life for others - and start living the life that you truly deserve…

What’s the #1 thing holding you back from your Epic life? 

It’s that people-pleasing attitude!!

You’re going to get tons of value today if ever feel like you don’t have time for yourself or if you have constant stress and feel run down or lacking of energy.

I hope you’ll really take this in and be open to applying these new thoughts and ideas today. 

If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today!


In this Episode of the Heal to Transform podcast, you’ll discover...

  • Recent studies are showing that “people-pleasing” activities may actually lead to auto-immune diseases and raised levels of stress.

  • The 4 most common behaviors that lead to physical illness and overwhelm. 

  • Why your childhood may be the reason for the “people-pleasing” behavior, and

  • 5 questions you can ask yourself each week that will help you stop living your life for everyone else - and start living authentically YOU!

Download Your Worksheet

Make sure to download and print this FREE journaling worksheet that will help you overcome “people-pleasing” and help you to live your life with less stress and more energy! Just click here.

Resources Mentioned

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Episode 40: When You're Changing & Your Partner Isn't

How to Let Go of Expectations and Come From Love

Why is loneliness one of the biggest epidemics in the world? 

In this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast - we have a simple answer to this impossible problem….we’ll also answer some of your other common challenges such as: 

Why do I have to work so hard to change myself and my partner isn’t doing anything. 

My partner and I are growing apart - we’re just not in love any more. 

I’m changing and he’s not, and it causing problems and disconnection in our relationship.

This episode is possibly one of the most mind-bending and relatable podcasts yet...it even made Wendy tear up...because it touched her so deeply. 

If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today!


This podcast is for anyone who wants to do better, be better, and love more...

  • Our culture is directly responsible for the epidemic of loneliness - and you can start to change this with one simple act!!

  • Which stage of growth and transformation are you in? 

  • Why we push others away when they aren’t doing what we want them to - and how to change this. 

  • And one poignant statement that brought Wendy to tears and shifted her completely.

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Episode 39: The 3 HUGE Mistakes Every Perfectionist Makes

How to Overcome Perfectionism

Are you a superachiever? Are you often very critical of yourself and get hurt easily by others criticism or judgement?

Do you often feel exhausted or anxious because you are pushing yourself so hard and trying to prove your worth to yourself or others?

Do you procrastinate and wait until the last minute to turn things in because you’re not sure if your work is good enough? 

If you answered yes to any of these questions - you may be a perfectionist….which means this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast is a MUST-LISTEN!

If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today!

In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • The 3 HUGE mistakes that all perfectionists make - and what to do instead

  • How fear and shame may be hiding under the need for success, accomplishment and overachievement.  

  • How perfectionism is dangerous to your physical and mental well-being and health.

  • Three simple actions you can take today to relieve the anxiety and exhaustion of needing to be perfect.

  • How to help your daughter or son overcome perfectionism and teach them it’s okay to fail.

Join the Conversation

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This weeks question is:

Question: Which of the 3 simple actions to overcome perfectionism are you going to take today?

Check Out More Heal To Transform Resources

  • Episode 38: How to Get Over the Fear of Rejection

  • Episode 37: Quieting Your Inner Critic

  • Episode 33: 5 Simple Steps to Eliminate Indecision

  • Episode 23: Overcome These 3 Challenges and You Will Become One of the Happiest, Most Successful People You Know

  • Episode 21: The Power of Facing Your Fears

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