Episode 42: The 6 Myths That Are Sabotaging Relationships Everywhere

Could your expectations and beliefs be sabotaging your relationship? 

What’s generally accepted in society - isn’t always what’s best for your relationship. In fact, these 6 common beliefs could be sabotaging your relationship! 

Join me in the Heal To Transform podcast today, as I break down 6 HUGE MYTHS that could be hurting your relationship. 

Here’s a sneak peak of MYTH #1: Love is all you need for a great relationship!

Sorry - the Beatles were WRONG!

This is just one of the lies that society tells us...ever since we were little girls. Love IS NOT ALL you need - it’s just a piece of the healthy relationship puzzle.

The sad part is that this lie teaches us that we don’t have to work on our relationships - that they should just be easy. 

The truth is...our relationship is just like the aromatic and green basil plant sitting above the sink in my kitchen. 

When it gets sunlight, and I water it just the right amount every single day - it grows and flourishes, and provides me with a minty, fresh, sweet and savory flavor whenever I need it. 

But...if I didn’t give that plant attention, water, and sunlight - it would wilt, the leaves would turn brown and start to fall off, and eventually it would die away. 

You get this right!?

We are told that all relationships take are love - so at some point, once we get comfortable in our marriages and relationships - we stop feeding the love, we stop watering the relationship, we stop nourishing our partner….

...and then what happens…

...The relationship wilts away…

...we stop feeling “in-love”...

...we constantly fighting, hoping to finally get attention from our partner…

...we just completely withdraw, believing it is easier then the feeling of rejection or hurt…

This is just one of the 6 MYTHS, one of the 5 B.S. “rules” that society has preached and that is making our relationships wilt away. 

Go check out the other 6 myths in the Heal To Transform podcast, and then make sure to SHOW UP LIVE for the 5 Secrets to Repair and Revive Your Marriage Workshop tomorrow!!

This podcast will tell you about the sabotaging beliefs and lies about relationships - then the workshop is going to break down the 5 secrets to creating an Epic relationship. 

It’s the perfect pairing!

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Episode 41: Is People-Pleasing Making You Sick & Stressed?

How To Start Living YOUR Authentic Life By Saying “NO”!

Would you like to live your life more authentically and let go of extra added stress? 

Did you know that by saying “yes” to others and not having boundaries adds stress to your life - AND can cause physical illness?? 

Our conversation today is all about how to stop living your life for others - and start living the life that you truly deserve…

What’s the #1 thing holding you back from your Epic life? 

It’s that people-pleasing attitude!!

You’re going to get tons of value today if ever feel like you don’t have time for yourself or if you have constant stress and feel run down or lacking of energy.

I hope you’ll really take this in and be open to applying these new thoughts and ideas today. 

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In this Episode of the Heal to Transform podcast, you’ll discover...

  • Recent studies are showing that “people-pleasing” activities may actually lead to auto-immune diseases and raised levels of stress.

  • The 4 most common behaviors that lead to physical illness and overwhelm. 

  • Why your childhood may be the reason for the “people-pleasing” behavior, and

  • 5 questions you can ask yourself each week that will help you stop living your life for everyone else - and start living authentically YOU!

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Resources Mentioned

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Episode 40: When You're Changing & Your Partner Isn't

How to Let Go of Expectations and Come From Love

Why is loneliness one of the biggest epidemics in the world? 

In this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast - we have a simple answer to this impossible problem….we’ll also answer some of your other common challenges such as: 

Why do I have to work so hard to change myself and my partner isn’t doing anything. 

My partner and I are growing apart - we’re just not in love any more. 

I’m changing and he’s not, and it causing problems and disconnection in our relationship.

This episode is possibly one of the most mind-bending and relatable podcasts yet...it even made Wendy tear up...because it touched her so deeply. 

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This podcast is for anyone who wants to do better, be better, and love more...

  • Our culture is directly responsible for the epidemic of loneliness - and you can start to change this with one simple act!!

  • Which stage of growth and transformation are you in? 

  • Why we push others away when they aren’t doing what we want them to - and how to change this. 

  • And one poignant statement that brought Wendy to tears and shifted her completely.

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Episode 39: The 3 HUGE Mistakes Every Perfectionist Makes

How to Overcome Perfectionism

Are you a superachiever? Are you often very critical of yourself and get hurt easily by others criticism or judgement?

Do you often feel exhausted or anxious because you are pushing yourself so hard and trying to prove your worth to yourself or others?

Do you procrastinate and wait until the last minute to turn things in because you’re not sure if your work is good enough? 

If you answered yes to any of these questions - you may be a perfectionist….which means this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast is a MUST-LISTEN!

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In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • The 3 HUGE mistakes that all perfectionists make - and what to do instead

  • How fear and shame may be hiding under the need for success, accomplishment and overachievement.  

  • How perfectionism is dangerous to your physical and mental well-being and health.

  • Three simple actions you can take today to relieve the anxiety and exhaustion of needing to be perfect.

  • How to help your daughter or son overcome perfectionism and teach them it’s okay to fail.

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This weeks question is:

Question: Which of the 3 simple actions to overcome perfectionism are you going to take today?

Check Out More Heal To Transform Resources

  • Episode 38: How to Get Over the Fear of Rejection

  • Episode 37: Quieting Your Inner Critic

  • Episode 33: 5 Simple Steps to Eliminate Indecision

  • Episode 23: Overcome These 3 Challenges and You Will Become One of the Happiest, Most Successful People You Know

  • Episode 21: The Power of Facing Your Fears

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Episode 38: Is the Fear of Rejection Holding You Back?

In this episode of the Heal To Transform podcast we’re diving into one of the biggest fears that may be holding you back from living your epic life….

When this fear shows up it may cause some seriously sabotaging behavior like numbing yourself, shame, people-pleasing, avoiding success, playing small, and losing out on amazing connection.

It’s my biggest fear, and one that I’ve been working hard to overcome.

It’s the Fear of Rejection….and if this is one of your fears too then you’ll want to listen to this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast, as we lay out 7 hacks to overcome so you can start playing BIG and living your dream life!

If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today!

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Pretending that other people’s opinions don’t matter doesn’t work - we talk about WHY!

  • How getting clear on your values and you “WHY” may be the biggest asset to moving past the fear of rejection.

  • Why your past experiences are strengthening your fear, and how to move forward.

  • The secret to leaving fear at the door when you are meeting new people, stepping outside of your box, or want to create new connections.

  • How long it takes to actually change your negative thoughts and fears into empowering thoughts that drive you to action and success.

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This weeks question is:

Question: Which of the 7 hacks are you going to try out this week when the fear of rejection pops into your life?

Check Out More Heal To Transform Resources

  • Episodes 1-5: Creating Your Ultimate Life Statement

  • Episode 37: Quieting Your Inner Critic

  • Episode 33: 5 Simple Steps to Eliminate Indecision

  • Episode 23: Overcome These 3 Challenges and You Will Become One of the Happiest, Most Successful People You Know

  • Episode 21: The Power of Facing Your Fears

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Episode 37: Quieting the Inner Critic

The 4 Truths That Will Finally Help You Outsmart Your Inner Critic

We all have an inner critic that we must learn to work with so it doesn’t work against us. You know that voice of “No-one cares what I have to say”, “They’ll just laugh at me”, “What if they don’t like me?” “I’m so fat. I’m not pretty enough.”, “You’re not smart enough to do that, you’ll never succeed.”

Sound familiar?

The problem is if we try to ignore the inner critic, it will just get louder and louder. Keeping us stuck in guilt, shame, unworthiness, and sabotaging our relationships and our deepest desires and goals.

In this podcast, we’ve identified the FOUR TRUTHS that you must understand if you want to finally quiet that nagging inner critic, and start using it’s power for good.

Once you understand these four truths, you will be armed with a powerful tool for working with your inner critic instead of it working against you. You’ll finally be released from it’s sabotaging clutches and will learn to live with inner peace and confidence.

In this podcast you will...

  • Understand why ignoring your inner critic may be the worst mistake you could make, and what to do instead.

  • Get two powerful tools to quiet the inner critic and make peace with yourself.

  • Learn how the inner critic is holding you back in life and may be interfering with your relationships and your successes.

  • Learn the ONE LINER that will instantly quiet your inner critic so that you can relax again and continue in your success!

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Episode 36: I Have A Great Life, Why Am I So Unhappy??

The 4-Step Process to Getting Unstuck and Start Living Your Fullest Life

We all deserve to live a happy, fulfilling and exciting life.

The problem is that we often get stuck in our day-to-day activities, so we forget what once inspired us and made us happy.

We start thinking, “I have it all, why am I still unhappy?”,

“Why do I feel like something is still missing from my life?”

“Isn’t there more to life?”

80% of how we think, feel and behave is on auto-pilot, and somewhere along the line we lose ourselves...we lose our identify.

In today’s podcast, Wendy and I are going to walk you through 4 Powerfully Simple steps you can take to get unstuck and start finding your true identity and purpose again.

Follow these 4-steps and you’ll never wonder “Isn’t there more to life?” - you’ll know the answer - and you’ll know exactly how to get there!

In this episode you will…

  • Discover why you don’t need to feel guilty by wanting more!

  • Stop letting the fear of success and the fear of failure keep you from creating your incredible life.

  • Understand what your BRAIN needs in order to be more successful and create more self-esteem

  • Learn how to recover and thrive after a big change in your life - like a divorce, a move, a job change, and so on...

Here’s to your happiness, fulfillment and success!!

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Episode 35: 25-Minute Relationship Reboot

Is it possible to transform your marriage in 25-minutes? (without your partner even knowing?)

Passionate, loving relationships ARE NOT created by learning great communication, weekly date nights, or mastering “secret” intimacy skills.

Because even if you know all of these things, you usually don’t do them.  

We’re smart women - we know we’re not “supposed” to nag or scream at our husband.

We know we’re not “supposed” to think he’s a lazy, selfish jerk.

We know we’re not “supposed” to imagine how our lives and marriages would be so much better if he would just change (or magically become Channing Tatum)

We know we’re “supposed” to say things like “I feel…” and “So, what I heard was…”

We know we can’t control our husbands - but, boy, do we try!

It’s not your fault.

Your brain isn’t wired for passionate, healthy and happy relationships.

Your brain is wired to protect you. And it will do whatever it can to keep any potential rejection or pain far, far away.

Your brain will do some extreme things to keep you safe - stuff like trying to control your partner, tricking you to believe there’s something better out there, unleashing the anger, and telling you not to trust or fully love your partner - because eventually...he’ll hurt you.

Unfortunately, all of these tactics are the exact thing creating distance, resentment, and unhappiness in relationships.

And, until we reprogram our brain to realize that it’s safe to fully committing to and deeply loving our partners - we’ll continue to push the passion away.

We’ll continue to stay disconnected, and feel like roommates.

So, what if you could teach your brain how to react with love, how to create passion, and how to let go of blame, control and resentments?

What if you could do this in less than 25-minutes, even if the relationship’s been struggling for years?

Join me for my free, 25-Minute Relationship Reboot. Your chance to reprogram your relationship mindset using the 5 simple steps I teach inside my paid program.

These 5-steps can help you fix any relationship challenge, and will also help you to feel more loved, adored and appreciated.



Episode 34: Let Go Or Be Dragged

How To Start Letting Go of Control So You Can Have More Inner Peace

Having control over our lives offers us a sense of security and safety.

The problem is that the need for control often goes into overdrive, wastes our precious energy and puts us in a place of stress, overwhelm and anxiety. Just the opposite of what we truly want.

It’s time to learn what you can control and what you can’t control so you don’t get dragged down anymore!

To help you start letting go of overwhelm I’ve created a simple Who, What, Why, How process that is going to help you let go so that you can get your energy back and start allowing more peace and happiness into your life.

Use this simple practice, and you’ll release the worry and discover more energy and freedom.

What possibilities would that open up for you?

In this episode you will...

  • Understand how trying to control can make you feel more outta control than ever.

  • Learn the difference between what you can control, and what you can’t control.

  • Get the 4-step simple process for finally “letting go” so you can have more peace and freedom than ever before.

  • Discover how letting go of control can positively impact your relationships.

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Episode 33: 5 Simple Steps To Eliminate Indecision

How To Make Decisions Quickly and Without Regret!

Do you ever have a hard time making decisions? Wish that someone else could just tell you what to do?

Every day we’re faced with dozens of little and big decisions. From standing in your closet debating between the black flats or the cute new platforms you just bought - but you know are going to hurt your feet.

To life-altering decisions like a career change or big move.

We get burned out trying to make decisions, and then we stop to trust ourselves and get paralyzed with fear that we’ll make the wrong decision or that we’re going to regret something.

In the Heal To Transform podcast, Wendy and I are breaking down the three biggest obstacles you face when making a decision.

And then we give you 5 simple steps you can take TODAY to help you make confident decisions with NO regrets!!

Here’s some of the highlights:

  • How indecision is killing your energy and drive!

  • The top fears you need to overcome so you can be a decision making superhero.

  • The one tool that will help you let go of the fear of regret, so you can move forward confidently in any decision you make.

  • How to tap into your intuition using a tool you’ll find in your wallet!

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Are you subscribed to the Heal To Transform podcast? If you’re not, I’d love to have you, because you don’t want to miss an episode. Wendy, my amazing co-host, and I are adding new life-transforming and heart & mind healing episodes often, and if you’re not subscribed you may miss out on the episode that will create change in your life, or relationship! Just click here to subscribe now.

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