Life Purpose

Episode 48: How To Fall Madly In Love With Every Part of You!

Manage Emotions, Stop Self-Sabotage, and Find Your Authentic Self

Have you ever heard yourself say, “one part of me really want this, the other part of me really wants that….” Why am I so indecisive? 

Or, what is wrong with me, I can’t let go of this anger, anxiety, hurt. I’m so broken.

Why do I keep doing this to myself - I keep sabotaging myself….what is wrong with me.

You are not broken, and there is nothing “wrong” with you...and trying to get rid of the parts or fix the parts of you that you don’t like may be exactly what’s keeping you from growth, transformation, happiness and from living your best, most authentic life. 

It’s keeping you frustrated, confused and it’s also keeping you in unhealthy, self-sabotaging patterns that are stopping you from reaching your goals. 

Most struggling women and men make the big mistake of trying to ignore, fix, or get rid of the parts of themselves that they dislike - and this is probably a mistake that you’re making right now.  Learn more in the podcast.

I consistently have women and men come to me and say, Val, please let me get rid of this anxiety, anger, people-pleasing, criticism, guilt and shame! There is something wrong with me - I’m so broken and I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. 

They waste energy, ruin relationships, keep themselves in a box because they are trying so hard to hide parts of them that they don’t find appealing. 

In sneaks the guilt, shame, and overwhelming stressed out spiral!

If this is you - it’s not your fault.

In this podcast, I’m going to teach you how to truly love and embrace every single part of you. You’re going to learn how to leverage every part of you in order to get these massive results in your life...

  • Access your true, authentic self

  • Gain More Confidence with One Simple Trick

  • Make friends with all of your emotions

  • Stop the self-sabotage

  • Reach your goals and dreams

  • Create Better relationships

  • Trust within yourself

This is a podcast you don’t want to miss!!

See you inside!

Episode 45: How to Find Clarity

Have you ever had a big decision to make and you didn’t know if you should trust your heart, your head or your gut?

Maybe you’re looking for purpose. Or wondering why you don’t feel fulfilled? 

Maybe you’re wondering if you need to cut loose a toxic relationship or finally quit an energy sucking job. 

Maybe you just didn’t even know where to start and you felt stuck and frustrated. Spending precious energy and time searching for an answer….asking around, reading books and blogs, searching for just one ounce of clarity? 

We’ve all been there...unfortunately, most people are making HUGE MISTAKES when trying to make a decision or looking for clarity. 

This mistake leads to wasted months, days, even years and causes anxiety each and every passing hour. 

That’s why in this episode of the Heal To Transform podcast I’m breaking down the exact steps to find clarity and giving you a simple process to help you make any decision. 

In this podcast, you’ll discover…

  • The BIGGEST MISTAKE most people make that’s keeps them stuck and prevents them from clarity and action. 

  • How you can find REAL clarity.

  • How to become more DECISIVE, CONFIDENT & INTUITIVE using a powerful process I break down in the podcast. 

  • Why your BRAIN KEEPS YOU FRUSTRATED, overwhelmed and stuck in inaction and what to do to change this!

This is a short, but powerful episode that you don’t want to miss!!

10 Powerful Questions for Clarity & Decision Making

Question 1: What do I need help in deciding? Where am I getting stuck? 

Question 2: What are my possible options? What else? What else? What else? What else?

Question 3: Should I [CHOICE A] or [CHOICE B]?   (if there are more than two options, just do two options a day, and then choose a winner and do questions 3-10 again with the next two options again with the winner and the next option - rinse and repeat. I.e., Should I [CHOICE WINNER] or [CHOICE C], Should I [CHOICE WINNER] or [CHOICE D])

Question 4: How do I want to feel or what do I want to experience as an outomces or result of this choice? What else? What else? What else? What else? 

Question 5: Will choice A make me feel this way or have these experiences? Why/How? Why/How? Why/How? Why/How? 

Question 6: Will choice B make me feel this way or have these experiences? Why/How? Why/How? Why/How? Why/How? 

Question 7: What are the possible consequences of Choice A? What else? What else? What else? What else? 

Question 8: What are the possible consequences of Choice A? What else? What else? What else? What else? 

Question 9: I now have all of the information and clarity I need, and I trust myself to make a good enough decision right now. What is my decision? 

Question 10: What action will I take next? 

You may have to repeat over a number of days. Don’t talk to others or ask for others for advice during this time. Trust yourself. 

Episode 41: Is People-Pleasing Making You Sick & Stressed?

How To Start Living YOUR Authentic Life By Saying “NO”!

Would you like to live your life more authentically and let go of extra added stress? 

Did you know that by saying “yes” to others and not having boundaries adds stress to your life - AND can cause physical illness?? 

Our conversation today is all about how to stop living your life for others - and start living the life that you truly deserve…

What’s the #1 thing holding you back from your Epic life? 

It’s that people-pleasing attitude!!

You’re going to get tons of value today if ever feel like you don’t have time for yourself or if you have constant stress and feel run down or lacking of energy.

I hope you’ll really take this in and be open to applying these new thoughts and ideas today. 

If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today!


In this Episode of the Heal to Transform podcast, you’ll discover...

  • Recent studies are showing that “people-pleasing” activities may actually lead to auto-immune diseases and raised levels of stress.

  • The 4 most common behaviors that lead to physical illness and overwhelm. 

  • Why your childhood may be the reason for the “people-pleasing” behavior, and

  • 5 questions you can ask yourself each week that will help you stop living your life for everyone else - and start living authentically YOU!

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Resources Mentioned

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Question: What was your biggest take-away from this weeks episode?

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Episode 40: When You're Changing & Your Partner Isn't

How to Let Go of Expectations and Come From Love

Why is loneliness one of the biggest epidemics in the world? 

In this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast - we have a simple answer to this impossible problem….we’ll also answer some of your other common challenges such as: 

Why do I have to work so hard to change myself and my partner isn’t doing anything. 

My partner and I are growing apart - we’re just not in love any more. 

I’m changing and he’s not, and it causing problems and disconnection in our relationship.

This episode is possibly one of the most mind-bending and relatable podcasts yet...it even made Wendy tear up...because it touched her so deeply. 

If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today!


This podcast is for anyone who wants to do better, be better, and love more...

  • Our culture is directly responsible for the epidemic of loneliness - and you can start to change this with one simple act!!

  • Which stage of growth and transformation are you in? 

  • Why we push others away when they aren’t doing what we want them to - and how to change this. 

  • And one poignant statement that brought Wendy to tears and shifted her completely.

Join the Conversation

Our favorite part of recording a podcast each week is participating in the great conversations that happen in our FREE Facebook Community: The Heal To Transform Group.

This weeks question is:

Question: Question: What was your biggest take-away from this weeks episode?

Let’s get social:

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Episode 38: Is the Fear of Rejection Holding You Back?

In this episode of the Heal To Transform podcast we’re diving into one of the biggest fears that may be holding you back from living your epic life….

When this fear shows up it may cause some seriously sabotaging behavior like numbing yourself, shame, people-pleasing, avoiding success, playing small, and losing out on amazing connection.

It’s my biggest fear, and one that I’ve been working hard to overcome.

It’s the Fear of Rejection….and if this is one of your fears too then you’ll want to listen to this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast, as we lay out 7 hacks to overcome so you can start playing BIG and living your dream life!

If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today!

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Pretending that other people’s opinions don’t matter doesn’t work - we talk about WHY!

  • How getting clear on your values and you “WHY” may be the biggest asset to moving past the fear of rejection.

  • Why your past experiences are strengthening your fear, and how to move forward.

  • The secret to leaving fear at the door when you are meeting new people, stepping outside of your box, or want to create new connections.

  • How long it takes to actually change your negative thoughts and fears into empowering thoughts that drive you to action and success.

Join the Conversation

Our favorite part of recording a podcast each week is participating in the great conversations that happen in our FREE Facebook Community: The Heal To Transform Group.

This weeks question is:

Question: Which of the 7 hacks are you going to try out this week when the fear of rejection pops into your life?

Check Out More Heal To Transform Resources

  • Episodes 1-5: Creating Your Ultimate Life Statement

  • Episode 37: Quieting Your Inner Critic

  • Episode 33: 5 Simple Steps to Eliminate Indecision

  • Episode 23: Overcome These 3 Challenges and You Will Become One of the Happiest, Most Successful People You Know

  • Episode 21: The Power of Facing Your Fears

Let’s get social:

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Episode 36: I Have A Great Life, Why Am I So Unhappy??

The 4-Step Process to Getting Unstuck and Start Living Your Fullest Life

We all deserve to live a happy, fulfilling and exciting life.

The problem is that we often get stuck in our day-to-day activities, so we forget what once inspired us and made us happy.

We start thinking, “I have it all, why am I still unhappy?”,

“Why do I feel like something is still missing from my life?”

“Isn’t there more to life?”

80% of how we think, feel and behave is on auto-pilot, and somewhere along the line we lose ourselves...we lose our identify.

In today’s podcast, Wendy and I are going to walk you through 4 Powerfully Simple steps you can take to get unstuck and start finding your true identity and purpose again.

Follow these 4-steps and you’ll never wonder “Isn’t there more to life?” - you’ll know the answer - and you’ll know exactly how to get there!

In this episode you will…

  • Discover why you don’t need to feel guilty by wanting more!

  • Stop letting the fear of success and the fear of failure keep you from creating your incredible life.

  • Understand what your BRAIN needs in order to be more successful and create more self-esteem

  • Learn how to recover and thrive after a big change in your life - like a divorce, a move, a job change, and so on...

Here’s to your happiness, fulfillment and success!!

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Episode 34: Let Go Or Be Dragged

How To Start Letting Go of Control So You Can Have More Inner Peace

Having control over our lives offers us a sense of security and safety.

The problem is that the need for control often goes into overdrive, wastes our precious energy and puts us in a place of stress, overwhelm and anxiety. Just the opposite of what we truly want.

It’s time to learn what you can control and what you can’t control so you don’t get dragged down anymore!

To help you start letting go of overwhelm I’ve created a simple Who, What, Why, How process that is going to help you let go so that you can get your energy back and start allowing more peace and happiness into your life.

Use this simple practice, and you’ll release the worry and discover more energy and freedom.

What possibilities would that open up for you?

In this episode you will...

  • Understand how trying to control can make you feel more outta control than ever.

  • Learn the difference between what you can control, and what you can’t control.

  • Get the 4-step simple process for finally “letting go” so you can have more peace and freedom than ever before.

  • Discover how letting go of control can positively impact your relationships.

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Are you subscribed to the Heal To Transform podcast? If you’re not, I’d love to have you, because you don’t want to miss an episode. Wendy, my amazing co-host, and I are adding new life-transforming and heart & mind healing episodes often, and if you’re not subscribed you may miss out on the episode that will create change in your life, or relationship! Just click here to subscribe now.

If you’re already loving the show, and this challenge, I would send you extra virtual healing vibes and energy if you left us a review on iTunes, too! These review help others find my podcast and of course we love reading them! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” an let me know what your favorite part of the podcast has been.

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Episode 33: 5 Simple Steps To Eliminate Indecision

How To Make Decisions Quickly and Without Regret!

Do you ever have a hard time making decisions? Wish that someone else could just tell you what to do?

Every day we’re faced with dozens of little and big decisions. From standing in your closet debating between the black flats or the cute new platforms you just bought - but you know are going to hurt your feet.

To life-altering decisions like a career change or big move.

We get burned out trying to make decisions, and then we stop to trust ourselves and get paralyzed with fear that we’ll make the wrong decision or that we’re going to regret something.

In the Heal To Transform podcast, Wendy and I are breaking down the three biggest obstacles you face when making a decision.

And then we give you 5 simple steps you can take TODAY to help you make confident decisions with NO regrets!!

Here’s some of the highlights:

  • How indecision is killing your energy and drive!

  • The top fears you need to overcome so you can be a decision making superhero.

  • The one tool that will help you let go of the fear of regret, so you can move forward confidently in any decision you make.

  • How to tap into your intuition using a tool you’ll find in your wallet!

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Are you subscribed to the Heal To Transform podcast? If you’re not, I’d love to have you, because you don’t want to miss an episode. Wendy, my amazing co-host, and I are adding new life-transforming and heart & mind healing episodes often, and if you’re not subscribed you may miss out on the episode that will create change in your life, or relationship! Just click here to subscribe now.

If you’re already loving the show, and this challenge, I would send you extra virtual healing vibes and energy if you left us a review on iTunes, too! These review help others find my podcast and of course we love reading them! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” an let me know what your favorite part of the podcast has been.

Oh yeah, and please remember….sharing is caring! You’re on this mission with us to transform and bring healing to the world - so make sure to share the podcast and spread the word!!

Episode 31: Time & Money: How To Get More of Both! (PART 1)

Ready to get more done, have more time, and start living your fullest life?

The two biggest reasons I see for people not taking the first step to change and growth is “I don’t have the money to invest” and “I don’t have the time to invest”

The problem is that we have a poor relationship with time and money. Until today!!!

Wendy and I are breaking down the most common mindset blocks that are keeping you from having more time in your life, and we’ll also be giving you practical steps to find more time in your day RIGHT NOW!

Subscribe & Review in iTunes

Are you subscribed to the Heal To Transform podcast? If you’re not, I’d love to have you, because you don’t want to miss an episode. Wendy, my amazing co-host, and I are adding new life-transforming and heart & mind healing episodes often, and if you’re not subscribed you may miss out on the episode that will create change in your life, or relationship! Just click here to subscribe now.

If you’re already loving the show, and this challenge, I would send you extra virtual healing vibes and energy if you left us a review on iTunes, too! These review help others find my podcast and of course we love reading them! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” an let me know what your favorite part of the podcast has been.

Oh yeah, and please remember….sharing is caring! You’re on this mission with us to transform and bring healing to the world - so make sure to share the podcast and spread the word!!

Episode 30: How Traveling Can Heal Your Mind, Body & Family!

Can a sabbatical - or just a vacation - change your life?

We all need to schedule pleasure and fun back into our lives, and there’s no better place to start than planning your next vacation - or month long sabbatical!! It’s time to start making travel a priority in order to recharge your life, bring you new experiences, and make incredible memories with your family.

The problem is that we’re too busy, we think we have too much to do, or we don’t make travelling and fun a priority. THIS IS A HUGE MISTAKE!

Susie Chau of Carpe Diem Traveller joins us today to talk about how travel can refresh your mind, your body, and bring amazing clarity and experiences into your life. Travelling can open your mind and your heart to new, incredible ideas and inspiration!

She also gives us tons of advice around how to make travel a reality no matter your time or money budget!! Click below to listen on iTunes!

Resources Mentioned: 

Me to We - volunteer trips (some are tailored to families) https://www.metowe.com/trips/

Austin Adventures - group tours for families around the world, specializing in outdoors adventures, especially in US National Parks https://www.austinadventures.com/

Backroads - multi-day group tours by bike (they have family options as well) - https://www.backroads.com/

Golden Door - All-inclusive and immersive wellness retreat in Southern CA (has women-only weeks and caters to single travelers) https://goldendoor.com/

About Susie:

Susie Chau, founder of Carpe Diem Traveler, helps burnt out professionals take a month long sabbatical to explore the world and themselves.

She took two month long and one year long sabbaticals throughout her 13 year career as a Management Consultant, all while keeping her job and moving up the corporate ladder.

Susie's love of travel inspired her to open a travel agency to help people get outside their comfort zones and open their minds to new possibilities.

She has combined her travel planning, consulting, and sabbatical expertise into a program with a step-by-step roadmap to planning a month long sabbatical in 30 days.

Social Media:

Website: https://www.carpediemtraveler.com/

FB (622): https://www.facebook.com/carpediemtraveler/

IG (1083): https://www.instagram.com/carpediemtraveler/

LI (825): https://www.linkedin.com/in/susiechau

Twitter (2342): https://twitter.com/carpediemtravlr

Pinterest (519): https://www.pinterest.com/carpediemtravlr/

Subscribe & Review in iTunes

Are you subscribed to the Heal To Transform podcast? If you’re not, I’d love to have you, because you don’t want to miss an episode. Wendy, my amazing co-host, and I are adding new life-transforming and heart & mind healing episodes often, and if you’re not subscribed you may miss out on the episode that will create change in your life, or relationship! Just click here to subscribe now.

If you’re already loving the show, and this challenge, I would send you extra virtual healing vibes and energy if you left us a review on iTunes, too! These review help others find my podcast and of course we love reading them! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” an let me know what your favorite part of the podcast has been.

Oh yeah, and please remember….sharing is caring! You’re on this mission with us to transform and bring healing to the world - so make sure to share the podcast and spread the word!!