If so, it's likely that it's time to make some changes in your relationship. So, what has held you back?

Maybe it's been fear...fear of what will my spouse say when I ask him/her to go to couples counseling. Fear of not finding the right counselor, or the belief that counseling will drag all the yucky stuff out and make things worse. 

Maybe you've thought about it, but then things got better for a minute and you decided you could fix it yourself. Until it got worse again.

Maybe your spouse is just flat out refusing to attend with you.

The struggle is real, I get it!


Hi!  I'm Valerie Kolick, Couples Therapist and Life Coach.  I want you to know that there is hope.  You can rediscover love and passion in your relationships and in your life. I have dedicated the last decade of my life to learning the strategies and techniques to help others find true happiness and to truly heal marriages and families. You can feel loved, find happiness & be awesome!


I want to walk with you in your journey of turning your relationship around or finding your true passion - that's why this website is full of free resources, including videos, the Best Marriage & Life blog, free downloads and a new podcast (coming soon, shhh...). 

Get the tools to improve your marriage & life today, START HERE:


Start with the FREE GUIDE TO 8 SIMPLE ACTIONS TO IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE (just click the image below to download the guide)


Then check out the Best Marriage & Life Blog.


Next, join me on facebook. And for you ladies you can also click here join my Enlighted Ladies Club Community.


Lastly, when you're READY to start marriage counseling or life coaching and truly create a life & relationship you desire, then click here to schedule a free, no-obligation consultation and let me show you how you could transform your life!

Let's Chat.  Schedule Your FREE CONSULTATION Today!

Available in-person in Urbana, Maryland, available Nationally and in U.S. via phone or video conference

Couples Counseling


(Available in Urbana & Frederick, MD and surrounding areas)

  • Face-to-Face counseling services
  • Rebuild Trust
  • Recovery from Infidelity
  • Reduce Stress & Fighting
  • Improve Communication
  • Find Passion & Feel “In-Love”
  • Rekindle Partnership
  • And more…

PERSONAL counseling


(Available in Urbana & Frederick, MD and surrounding areas)

  • Face-to-face counseling
  • Relieve Anxiety, Stress & Depression
  • Create balance
  • Discover Passion & Purpose
  • Create fulfilling relationships
  • Parenting & Marriage Skills
  • Transition to a new life stage successfully
  • Release Habits
  • And more...


Be Awesome

(Available Nationwide)

  • Phone or Skype Coaching
  • Find Balance
  • Break Habits
  • Find Your Passion & Purpose
  • Reach career, life & love goals
  • Live your potential
  • Rekindle the passion in your marriage/relationship
  • And more…

What My Client's Say

I have gotten more out of one session with Valerie, than I have in my decades of going to therapy!
— Individual Therapy
Just to say thank you so very much again, Valerie! You have truly changed my life and the lives of my husband and children forever. I am eternally grateful and looking forward to learning from and working with you in the future!
— Gina Stasiowski, Coaching Client
Our life is more calm and we are less antagonistic with each other. We don’t seem to fight nearly as much as we used to, and when we do have arguments, they are resolved more quickly. Valerie is an insightful and knowledgeable life coach who is as easy to talk to because she is friendly and conversational, and she keeps it real. Put the work in now in your relationship and your self and keep reaping the benefits for many years to come. Our happiness is invaluable.
— Brad & Carolyn, Couples Coaching
Valerie made us think outside the box and cover topics we wouldn’t normally discuss. We really learned a lot about each other, and these sessions really strengthened John and I’s relationship. We feel confident about what life will bring us and I can attribute a lot of that to Valerie.
— John & Rachel, Former Pre-Marriage Clients

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: Is therapy or coaching better for me?

A: As a licensed psychotherapist and certified life coach, I believe that both therapy and coaching are great options for an individual or couple who would like to overcome challenges, find more happiness and joy in life and reach life and business goals. Therapy is highly recommended for individuals with high levels of anxiety, depression, substance use or another previously diagnosed mental illness or for those who prefer a face-to-face experience. Coaching is great for couples or individuals who are busy and don't have the time or flexibility to drive to a therapy office each week. You can learn more about the difference between coaching and therapy here. If you're still not sure, just click here to schedule your FREE CONSULTATION to learn more. 

Q: I'm interested in couples therapy, but my spouse does not want to do it with me. What should I do?

A: One person can change a relationship - in fact - my speciality is helping women to change their relationships from the inside out (even when their spouse doesn't participate). I believe if you want to create change, you CAN! But..in full disclosure...marriages transform more quickly when both partners are on board with therapy or coaching. So, I would love to help you learn how to have this conversation with your spouse. When you are ready to improve your marriage, don't wait for your spouse to be on the same page - just grab your FREE CONSULTATION and we'll develop a plan that will work best for you and your marriage.

Q: I live in or close to Frederick Maryland - do you take face-to-face clients? 

A: Sure do! I have an office in Urbana, Maryland where I work with various therapy clients. Shoot me an e-mail at valerie@kolickcoaching.com and we can schedule your first appointment. 

Q: I don't live close to Frederick Maryland - can I still work with you?

A: Yep! The reason I love coaching is because it allows me to work with individuals and couples across the WORLD! We have all of our sessions via phone or video-conference and you even get extra e-mail support. However, if you have a diagnosable mental illness or substance use disorder I will refer you to a local therapist. 

Q: Do you accept insurance? 

A: No. I value confidentiality and believe that your therapy should be guided by you and not your insurance company. For this reason, I do not participate in any managed care/insurance plans. However, some insurance companies may reimburse you for the services.

Q: What is the cost of counseling or coaching? 

A: Therapy or coaching is an investment in yourself and your marriage. It can save you years of pain and spinning your wheels in constant disappointment. It can SAVE your marriage and your life. My services range from $120 - $200, depending on length of time, type of service and level of involvement. Find out more during your FREE CONSULTATION.